BUILDING TRUST AND RELATIONSHIP WITH YOURSELF

“The most important relationship you will ever be in, is the one with yourself."  Days after this conversation with my teenager, I am reminded of the impact parenting has on my own journey.  They are the mirror reflecting back at me, all the things going on inside me.  So often I find what I share with them is meant for me too. 

After 46 years on the planet, I’m still discovering how to best nurture my relationship with myself.  A huge component has been learning how to trust myself more.  Trust that what is meant for me, won’t miss me.  Both in opportunity and challenge.  Strengthening the relationship you have with yourself requires some effort.  While growth is expansive, it doesn’t come without some discomfort.  Consciousness, compassion, and connection with oneself are necessary to stay congruent in the process of learning to trust yourself.  

When I find myself right at my edge, smack dab in the middle of growth, the following three affirmations or mantras (whatever you want to call them) and questions, are having the greatest influence:

Generosity
“I am doing the best I can.”
What’s the most generous assumption I can make here? 

Curiosity
“It’s ok to not know (how this will go).”
What’s the invitation, what is this here to teach me?  Who can support me here?

Motion
“I am enough (to be and do what is needed) in this moment.” 
What’s the next best action I can take here?  

What you think and say to yourself, about any opportunity or challenge in front of you, matters.  Your language and thoughts determine how you feel and how you feel will determine what you do.  This week, when you find yourself stretched to your edge, what do you need more of?  How can you show more generosity and curiosity, stay in motion?  How are you talking to yourself?  Are you building trust through compassion over judgment?  Be kind to you and take care of you.  As always, stay open, brave, and on-purpose.